Sunday, February 26, 2012

Is it just me or do people on here respond really rude?

I understand everyone has their opinions, and by submitting a question you are also allowing anyone on the web to answer it. In that case, you are available to be "spanked" verbally.



I also understand that everyone is different and sometimes things just come across in unintended ways when others read what you have to say. It's different perspectives, I get that.



But do some of you out there just get kind of tired of people on here who literally have nothing better to do than just comment on people's sincere questions and calls for advice with rude remarks, insinuations, and assumptions of you are outside of the information you provide? I mean, come on. Really? Why do people find enjoyment in that? I don't know how many times I've come to this place to get advice on something, even simple matters, or to get a question of mine solved, and people will comment telling me I'm a "cold, selfish, unworthy mother", or "idiot", even assuming things about me that have abosolutely NOTHING to do with the question I ask. It's getting pretty ridiculous on here and I think Yahoo! needs to be more aware of the "Top Contributors" and other members that think bashing others is answering to someone's need.



Do you all have that problem at times? Doesn't it get old after a while!? It's kind of frustrating, too, because this doesn't allow you to respond back to accusers or argument instigators, unless it's once you've chosen the Best Answer, and even then you're only given 300 characters to use. That's not NEARLY enough to defend yourself.Is it just me or do people on here respond really rude?
It happens all the time with me, I expect it ! Try not and let it bother you, they don't know you, and you don't know them! I wouldn't even bother with wanting to defend yourself. Why waste your time ?
It's sad but it is a fact of life that on all networking sites like this it does happen. People who are as timid as mice in real life can get a kick out of being (or pretending to be ) hard on here. If you met them in the street they would not have anything to say. Do not let them upset you, the majority of us are reasonable friendly people. Ignore the idiots and enjoy the siteIs it just me or do people on here respond really rude?
The internet is for porn... and porn is degrading to women... this teaches men to disrespect people with a female avatar... and hence people are rude to you.





Also, the majority of people don't actually want to answer questions... kind of what happens in certain forums I've visited. They consider questions already asked as lame and insist that people learn how to use "search" rather than make their own topic (necroing is still bad though).



In short, people seem naturally inclined to being rude.
Greetings, I clearly see your point and understand your cry although I am a "Newbie" or "New Kid On The Block". I see and read some ridiculous to outrageous answers to some people's genuine questions/concerns who are here to obtain a reasonable and rational answer/comment. I would remind you to NOT give up and don't let 1 bad apple spoil the bunch instead continue to get rid of the rotten apples by throwing them away or select the "Best Answer" option. P.S. "Great Minds Think Alike but Fools Seldom Differ". Also remember when you come across negativity (-), then counteract it with a positive or a plus (+).Is it just me or do people on here respond really rude?
Unfortunately the anonymity of message boards tends to bring out some less than pleasant people and others who seem to enjoy causing problems rather than providing solutions. It's like in school when the teacher asked , are you helping with the solution or are you part of the problem.Try to ignore them, report them if they break community guidelines or TOS. Fortunately the majority of members are sincere, polite and try to help other members.There are also point gamers who answer just to get 2 points the easy way they should be reported

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Yes, it happens all the time. Most of the users here are teenagers and get their kicks from insulting other people. They're just kids trying to have a little fun and be 'shocking' at the same time. You can use the Report Abuse button in the corner of thier answer and report them or you can just ignore the little cretins.

Work place harassment--what can I do?

This guy has pushed me, hit me, threatened to "blow up" my car, verbally harassed EVERY single person there, he's late all the time, which effects everyone, in fact he was 2 1/2 hours late earlier this week. I've tried putting it in writing and giving it to the manager, but nothing was done. He's been fired twice but they let him come back. All the other managers are afraid of him, as he makes it a very hostile environment, but the manager in charge of firing people (or just dealing with it in general) won't do a thing. She ignores it whenever we tell her about him. I don't know what else to do. Actually, we're all at a loss. Tomorrow, he works with me. I've told the managers I'm not going to work in the same area with him, and for the most part, they listen. But whatever he says, goes. When they gave him his job back the second time, they said if he makes any mistake, he'll be fired. He was LATE 2 1/2 hours. He should have been fired then.

I don't know what else to do. It's hell working with this guy.Work place harassment--what can I do?
Lol ok and to answer you question. Move to Las Vegas, you can become a bartender (a cool one) or like a dancer or something. Las Vegas is a BIG party place.Work place harassment--what can I do?
tell your parents about that you are having a hard time at your job and get them to talk to your manager and if that doesn't work then call up the police and tell them about the guy who was harassing you and that you feel threatened by him and that he's physically abused you and if that doesn't work then move to another work placement, hope it helps!!!!Work place harassment--what can I do?
If everyone feels the same as you, go as a group to the manager and everyone say, either he goes or we go.

Should I break up? Lay down an ultimatum?

I'm an ambitious young woman going to college full time and working for a graphics novel company. I am very energetic and outdoorsy, and dating a slightly younger guy. When we first got together, he claimed to love the outdoors, used to work as a switchboard operator for a radio station, loved music, dancing, walks, etc.



We've been together for 2 years now and as it turns out he hates the outdoors and is actually allergic to the sun (His face swells and he gets horrible rashes.)



He got laid off from his job at the radio station a year ago and has only turned in 3 or 4 applications since then. I've had to fight with him horrifically to get him to turn them in in the first place.



He took a loan for college, then dropped out and didn't even tell me, let alone discuss it with me. I simply noticed he was always at home when I came home from school and work. Because of this, he was denied further financial aid toward his education.



We live with horrid room mates and he refuses to move away from them.



I have to fight with him to do the dishes, and then there is still food stuck on them when I get them out of the cupboard later. (Gross.)



His ENTIRE DAY consists of waking up, getting on his computer to play online games, taking various bathroom, shower, and food breaks, and then going to bed at 4 in the morning. These noisy games do not allow me to sleep, as he is shouting into his headset in the same room as me and will not stop no matter what.



We have sex once a month, and haven't kissed more than a peck in over a year.



He threatens to break up with me if I don't dress 'like a woman' and wear makeup.



We never talk. He's always on the computer, and if say, I'm going somewhere with friends for the day, he repeatedly forgets and every time I mention it in conversation he acts shocked and angry that I 'Hadn't brought it up before/had no idea I was going.' Repeatedly. In the same day.





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WHY HAVEN'T I BROKEN UP WITH HIM YET you are probably typing in all caps. Well, here's the thing. He was homeless when I found him because his asshole foster parents threw him into the street with the shirt on his back when he turned 18. He is young and inexperienced at life.



He seemed to be such a hard worker to help me find a place then, so I know he has potential to work and be productive.



If I toss him out now, or simply move away, he will not be able to afford rent on his own and isn't even employed. He will wind up on the street, and it will be my fault.



I feel like leaving him now would put him in danger, and I just feel like it's a very selfish thing to do. I have complete freedom to do whatever I please. He never cheats on me (Too busy with games, haha) or even watches porn! I've installed a key logger on his computer and the worst thing he's looked up is information about 'reasons women lactate' in a perfectly clinical setting. He's usually very honest, and when he lies, it's easy to catch and a very white lie. He is low-maintenance; all I have to do is throw food at him once in a while and put his hair in a ponytail. He is physically attractive and in shape, smart, and charming.



I just don't want to be a mom to him, and I don't want him to drag me down with him as he is literally costing me more money than I am making in rent, since he doesn't want to move. As productive as i am, my savings won't go very far, and then I'LL be homeless.



So what should I do? Give him a time limit, and then move out? Just break it off? I'm tired of being sexually, emotionally, and financially frustrated.Should I break up? Lay down an ultimatum?
Oh my freaking God!



You should be happy he sticks around, with a miserable chick like you, no normal guy would!
Time to brake up.Should I break up? Lay down an ultimatum?
Is his name Ron?
Selfish and ruthless is the norm for women . Kick him out into the frigid winter streets so he can get a taste of what being married and divorced is really like.



It will be a valuable life's lesson for him.Should I break up? Lay down an ultimatum?
Just break it off! He's just bringing you down and leaching off of you. Sounds like you are being a Mom to him. Sounds like more of a mooching roomate than anything else.

DROP HIM!

Not you problem that he has nowhere to go. Maybe that will be his motivation to grow up.

Good luck, you sound like a smart girl. Just let him go and find someone on your level :)
Pity does not equal compatibility. Make plans to break up. Save some money and start tying up the loose ends and then move out. He can answer to the roommates about the rent and other bills and take some responsibility for himself.
Maybe his foster parents didn't actually throw him out of the house with nothing but a shirt on is back. Maybe they went through what you are going through right now. He is a mooch and always will be one so long as you enable him. If it's been a year and he still can't find a job, then something is wrong.

If I were you, I would tell him the relationship is over and he is responsible for supporting himself from now on. Don't give him -any- money in any shape or form (don't let him eat your food, don't drive him places, etc.). You should probably look for another place to live since you don't like his roommates, but tell him that he needs to start looking for a place to live as well. Throw all of his belongings out of the bedroom and put a new lock on the bedroom door so he can't sleep in your bed anymore of use the gamer.

Best of luck!
I think you should give him a time limit, and NOT move out if he meets the deadline. Something like this:



"If you do not have a full time job by Feb. 12, I will move out."



Make sure he understands, and that you are serious, and then say nothing more.

Why do atheists like to use the word "logic" so much, when they never use it?

There is nothing logical about denying possibilities that have not yet been disproven.





There is nothing logical about ASSUMING anything in general, but especially those things that contemplate the complex unsolved mysteries of our lives.





Thus, there is no logic apparent in the statement, "There is no God."





There is no logic in assuming that science is a flawless, unshakable foundation from which all truth springs, and that the ego-centric atheist scientists who shamelessly promote themselves could never be wrong.





There is nothing logical about allowing SELF-APPOINTED experts to supply you with your ADOPTED belief system, blindly accepting their claims as facts without actually checking them out for yourself.





Atheism? Logical? Open-minded? Free thinkers? Not even close.





If atheists were logical thinkers, they would realize that everything they know could be wrong, and they would admit as much. Instead they are willing slaves to the ego, and naively believe they are superior to those who ACTUALLY retain open-mindedness. True open-mindedness, that is. Not the closed-minded lifestyle of atheism that simply masquerades as open-mindedness...|||Scientific Default|||Most atheists know science is not flawless, but that is presented in order to be tested. This is well known, you must be ignoring it. There is pretty convincing evidence against the need for a creator, when there is no evidence supporting it.


Nothing is absolute, atheists just follow where the facts lie, this is where truth is. Hiding behind a book or "faith" will not change that.





Your logic is flawed, "It has not been dis-proven, therefore it can be." This is not so, there would still be a need for evidence supporting this claim while there is none. Do not say the bible, qu'ran, torah or any other book, they are just books written by men.|||There's no logic in expecting people to disprove a single god when there's millions. There's no open mindedness in believing in one god or a group of when there's plenty to choose from. I can accept the fact I may be wrong, I don't claim superiority and I'm not an egomaniac, can't really say the same for believers though. What with their claims of moral superiority and all..|||I agree: There's nothing logical about denying possibilities that have yet to be disproven.





That's where the agreement ends because I'll accept it when you prove it actually exists.





Honestly, I don't see what the problem is. It keeps us both honest. I don't start believing something just to shut you up, and you can't convince me without evidence for your claim.|||Your first sentence illustrates the flaw in your logic.



If you are trying to imply that, since the existence of God has not been disproved, then your error is not knowing that it is a logically impossibility to prove a negative.



In any case, it is not up to Atheists to disprove the existence of God. Since Theists have postulated that God exists, the burden of proof is on their shoulders.|||I admit there may be some divinity but it is not possible to exist how Christianity says. Anyway the Church is a grand hypocrisy, Christianity is supposed to repeat the teachings of Jesus. Jesus believed in nonviolence, "giving everything to the poor", among others. Yet you see religious wars, the pope wearing gold everything with staffs of diamonds etc. I'm a better Christian than half the people sitting next to you in Church.|||LOL LOL!! AMEN!!!!!





Don't forget evolutionists, homosexuals, mormons, muslims, and last but not least rich greedy powerlusters.





@Jim: To believe you never err is to believe you are not human but are god. They better hope they are right and can save their own souls when they die. Good luck blind sinners, I really hate to see any of you go to hell.|||Because they think that believing in unproven, untested and in some cases even debunked scientific hypotheses makes them superior and without hypocrisy. Yet at the same time they demand evidence for the existence of God.





In most instances it's really a case of low self esteem.|||There is nothing logical about believing in a possibility that has no evidence and is nothing more than a wild guess.





Particularly when said fantasy has been wrong about nearly everything science has learned about the Universe.|||I will look with an open mind at your EVIDENCE for the existence of your alleged Jewish god and the EVIDENCE for the existence of his alleged son. Show me your EVIDENCE. Isn't it logical to base a conclusion of the EVIDENCE?|||bob i love your questions. i see no proof of bigfoot either so therefore i dont believe in him. now bring in a corpse of one or a live specimen and i'm all in. bring me proof of a god i dont care which one and i'd be in. something truly tangible though, none of this holy words our holy books stuff which is all religious folks seem to have to offer.|||Wow. That's a sweeping generalization. It's no better than atheists saying all believers believe in fairytales and have the mind of a two year old. :/ I don't like it. Shows prejudice.|||yeah because the bible is filled with logic right?|||Atheism doesn't necessarily claim 'god does not exist'





Scientists have evidence. We don't just take their word. And they are not self appointed. They go through decades of study ans research.|||BECAUSE YOU CAN'T DISPROVE A NEGATIVE. God damn get it through your head. It's logical to say god doesn't exist BECAUSE THERE'S NO PROOF. There's also no logic in claiming every single god is fake except your own.|||So true open mindedness is ignoring the facts?








interesting...|||Many do, but it just looks like they don't if you spend time in R%26amp;S. Hardly anyone actually uses logic here.|||they have so much faith that their theories are right|||I, personally, and not on the behalf of any other person in the universe, see that yes, there is a possibility of god, because a god can do whatever it wants. But, there is no evidence of a god, so we can't assume there is one, either. And since man invented the concept of god, it is unlikely that there is one. And even if there isn't, this god hasn't affected me, so I can survive without worshiping him. What IS illogical, is listening to a book written many years ago by men and accepting it as true. We don't base our atheism on proof, we base it on lack of proof, on your part.|||There is everything logical about not accepting beliefs that have no evidence. There is every logic to not accepting something until it Can be prove to exits or even possible.





I do not think it possible for harry potter to really exist adn there really be wizards, is that illogical. Sure there may be a very remote tiny minuscule possibility, but its not a possibility that would be considered in reality.





So why should I consider a god to be possible, by what standards or what evidence has been presented to how its possible? I consider it a possibility once someone demonstrates that it is indeed a possibility.





Again could you prove harry potter or star trek being real are not possible would you have to accept that unicorns are a possibility?





We can using science remove somethings from consideration because these things are against all Scientific Evidence we have and go against every logical thinking process we have.





Until evidence is presented that shows supernatural forces or gods are in fact possible, we have a great deal of Evidence to go from to show its not.





WE can make sound judgements and logical decision based on the Information at hand.





Now of course Information and evidence may come in the future, but the time to consider it is when that happens.





Again to you consider fairies to eb possible?|||Logic, ha. Yes, it's true that I'm open for any possibilities. But instead of thinking there's a possibility for everything I think I'll stick to the small list of things that are pretty much logically sound and provable. For example: here's a list of all the things I'd need to keep an open mind about since they have not been totally disproven:





Unicorns


Leprachauns


Flying spaghetti monsters.


Santa


The tooth fairy


The Matrix being real


Unicorns


The Loch Ness Monster


Big Foot aka Sasquatch


A small little yellow Pikachu sitting under my feet that I just can't see.


Martians that live inside Mars so we can't see/find them


This list goes on and on.





Yes, I admit, there's a SLIGHT possibility that all those things are possible.... but I'm not going to just start worshipping them all and going crazy about believing in them just because there's a CHANCE they do exist. Logically that would be insane, I think my head would explode because I'd have to "believe" in upwards of 100,000,000 different things that could be true. From myths to ghosts to the boogie man. Like I said, I'll stick with the logical things that have at least some good evidence to support them.





There, that's your logical argument. If you want to half-believe in all those things I listed, go ahead, but that list is a very very very long list.|||first of all, others are right when they say extraordinary claims require extraordinary proof. if the religious are the ones claiming a god exists, then the burden of proof is on them.





atheists and scientists in general do not just assume things. for one, they do have extraordinary evidence for things like evolution. and they do NOT (the majority, myself included) believe their theories are "flawless" or "unshakable". a major ideal of science is being willing to rewrite your entire idea of how the world works and your values if new evidence arises. they WANT as many minds as possible to criticize and edit their work, for the sake of gaining knowledge as a whole.





we do not "blindly" accept anything as fact.





and lastly I am an agnostic atheist who DOES in fact realize everything i believe could be wrong.|||Well, forgive my lack of logic, but let me ASSUME your argument is correct on all points. How much more guilty is the religious side of the same or functionally equivalent violations of logic?



- Accepting possibilities that have not yet been proven.



- Assuming things in general about the complex, unsolved mysteries of life.



- Assuming that faith is a flawless, unshakable foundation from which all truth springs, and that the Bible (or perhaps a religious figure) could never be wrong.



- The following of SELF-APPOINTED experts. ADOPTING a belief system. Blindly accepting claims as facts without checking them out yourself.



If atheists are guilty of being illogical, so are theists. Equivalence of irrationality doesn't prove one side right or one side wrong, but it does suggest that the religious are certainly in no position to criticize the logic of atheists.



Your statement is so ironic that I'm going to go out on a limb and assume that this was intended to be satire.|||Sequoia is a genus of redwood coniferous trees in the Sequoioideae subfamily, of the Cupressaceae family. The only extant species of the genus is the Sequoia sempervirens in the Northern California coastal forests ecoregion of Northern California and Southern Oregon in the United States. The two other genera, Sequoiadendron and Metasequoia, in the subfamily Sequoioideae are closely related to Sequoia. It includes the largest trees in the world.





Several extinct species have been named from fossils, including Sequoia affinis, Sequoia chinensis of China, Sequoia langsdorfii, Sequoia dakotensis of South Dakota (Maastrichtian), and Sequoia magnifica.





[edit] PaleontologyThe genus Sequoia first appears in the fossil record as Sequoia jeholensis, found in Jurassic deposits of South Manchuria (Ahuja and Neale 2002). By the late Cretaceous it was already established in Europe, parts of China, and western North America. Comparisons among fossils and modern organisms suggest that by this period Sequoia had already evolved a greater tracheid diameter that allowed it to reach the great heights characteristic of the modern Sequoia sempervirens (Coast redwood). Sequoia was not dominant in the tropical high northern latitudes, likely due to outcompetition by Metasequoia, a redwood whose deciduous habit gave it a significant adaptive advantage in an environment with 3 months of continuous darkness (Jagels and Equiza 2005). However there still was prolonged range overlap between Sequoia and Metasequoia which could have led to hybridization events that created the modern hexaploid Sequoia sempervirens (Ahuja and Neale 2002; Rogers 2000).|||LOL LOL!! AMEN!!!!!



Don't forget evolutionists, homosexuals, mormons, muslims, and last but not least rich greedy powerlusters.



@Jim: To believe you never err is to believe you are not human but are god. They better hope they are right and can save their own souls when they die. Good luck blind sinners, I really hate to see any of you go to hell.|||See: "Argument from inconsistent revelations."|||Atheists believe that are NEVER wrong about anything, especially about God.|||Dont forget. They also consider theories as proven tests.

Gays to hell?

ok if God loved "everyone" y would gays (SOME ONE AND PART OF EVERYONE) go to hell and i saw on youtube this one guy (who seems like a non lying person) that sayed like in the 1950's bible it said child molesters and stuff go to hell and then later on they changed it to homosexuality soo do these thing add up to say GAYS DONT BURN IN HELLGays to hell?
Hell is not real. it was made up by the church too make people belive in what they said. To make them Fear God. Other then Loveing the God they Prayed too
the reasoning begind this is because sodomy(sexual deviation like anal sex) is a sin, not neccesarily homosexuality. Because these sins are non repentant then the sinner goes to hell. Even in the Divine Comedy, people who commit sodomy and dont repent are denied entrance into paradise and end up in the 8th circle of hell. its called a sin because its considered a violence against nature...yeah



fyi i dont belive this, i more a of a do-good-things-good-things-happen person



EDIT to anyone who doesnt know what the divine comedy is, its an epic about the journey of Dante Allegeri through the nine levels of hell, the levels of purgetory, and the nine spheres of paradise/heaven.Gays to hell?
Ok for the people that say that homosexual wasn't a term until 100 years ago, that may be but there has always been some word for it simply because as long as there has been man there have been gays.



I could give a long drawn out speech about why the bible now says that homosexuals are sinners and how the church wants to control sex and marriage because they are essential human needs but ultimately it is because the translations are so easily manipulated and changed. Even languages that are still spoken today are horribly mistranslated, you could have a word for fire in one language and in the other what you really would be referring to is a burning stick of wood so the meaning is lost.
don't you love how these people that so easily put on that "non lying face" change up the rules in the bible to fit whatever makes them comfortable?? it's quite ridiculous.. gays aren't going to burn in hell.. yes, it is against God's commandments.. due to the fact that we, as human beings, God's creation, are put on this earth to multiply and replenish the earth.. however.. God is also a loving God and a forgiving God.. so i dunno if you understood any of that.. i'm a little tired.. but gays won't burn in hell anywaysGays to hell?
Why would the Vatican invent something like that just because they dislike gays? Get real please ! The fact IS that it is written in the Bible that homosexuality in itself aka waste of semen is a sin . People who are homosexual are in general not religious , they became so because of no religious education when they were young . It is a free world , but I don't want my kids to watch some gay couple licking themselves as they often do in public.
i am a christian but some stuff in the bible i do not agree with...

some is just to make society a better place.

i think the the child molesters/ rapists should burn in hell for eternity

but for other sins.... i think they should be forgiven... some people are taught otherwise.... they have never gotten taught to be a better person, they have never gotten taught right from wrong. and homosexuals.... i certanly dont think they should go to hell!!!!!! and that will not happen! why did jesus die on the cross for our sins.... there are some things you can forgive, and i think that is one of them.... but child molesters

never forgive... children are angels sent from above how would the world be without the children in our lifes
Well, like I told protesters...no where in the bible did it say, Homosexuals were to be burned in hell.

As far as I know, the word 'homosexual' wasn't used until the late 1900's.

So...yeah, don't believe everything you hear. It's just because people want something to complain about.
dont believe in god.

and dont believe anything a boot legged book says.

afterall the real bible is probably in israel. man can easily change things around.

i wonder what company prints bibles..

hmmmm..
I hope to meet plenty of straight bigots of intolerance in hell.
No you won't go to hell. Do you think you're going to hell for being something you have no control over?
They DO NOT burn in hell.It would be a counterdiction on "God's" part.
god loves EVERYONE
I understand. Humans did not begin to understand homosexuality until about 100 years ago. The word "homosexual" itself did not exist in any language until a little more than that.



So how can the bible say something like that?



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Homosexuals have existed since the beginning of time, however they did not have a word for homosexuals! Now, we say homosexual, but in biblical times, homosexuality was not a word. Homosexuals were always described as "men who lie with men" or "women who lie with womern" There was not a specific word that described them.



The bible languages of Hebrew and Greek were very primitive languages and used descriptions in place of many words we use today.



Please visit this website for more information: http://www.otkenyer.hu/truluck/the_bible鈥?/a>



The person who created that website has studied the bible for several years.



Please everyone who answers this question, check your sources and view a reliable source. NARTH is not a reliable source, they have been refuted by many other scientists and religious groups alike. Focus on The Family has also disproved so many times that it is unreal.
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  • My boyfriend thinks i am a lesbian now after having a threesome with him and another girl..i dont agree, do u?

    ok my boyfriend and i had been together for three years and things had gone from bad worse....the past 3yrs, he'd been bothering me about doing a threesome and finally since things have been boring in our relationship i found a girl who was down for it, so as i was telling him about her how she had a hell of a body and she was sexy, he got suspicious and started to think that i had been flirting with her previouslly, which i havent. So we went ahead and met up at a hotel with her and all of us had some rum and coke and wine to drink, we started to flirt, i wanted my bf to enjoy it so i was playing my role and kissing on her and she was kissing all over my body...i was acting the whole time bc i am 100% into men, anyways he was getting turned on a lot and he waned more attention but her and i were enjoying more of eachther...next thing u know she went down on me and i was blindfolded, it felt the same as if it was a guy doing it and i had an orgasm, after that my boyfriend had sex with me where she watched...and that was it...so after that night, her and i became facebook friends and now he is jealous and thinks that i am going to see this girl and stuff like that......i keep telling him that i am not a lesbian. What should i do??? i deleted her on facebook now so he doesnt think im still in touch with her, for me, it was a one night thing to tease himMy boyfriend thinks i am a lesbian now after having a threesome with him and another girl..i dont agree, do u?
    %26gt;No it doesn't make you a lesbian, but it is a strong indication you are bi-sexual or at least bi-curious or you wouldn't have agreed to do it to begin with. A real lesbian has nothing to do with men sexually and is 100% attracted to women only. There are women who prefer other women but will stick with a man anyway - I think its because the somehow are socially inhibited and have not come out of the closet all the way. Only YOU have the right to put a label on who you are. If he is somehow disturbed by this, maybe he had better re-examine his sexual preferences and let you go. BTW, I don't think there is anything "wrong" with homosexuality as long as all the parties concerned, are adults and agree to that arrangement. Each to his or her own. I am a strict heterosexual, but you see, don't care, half the world is men and so if one doesn't work for me, I will find another one. Believe me, every woman has at least one advantage over men - no matter how ugly, fat, old, you are, if you are a woman, all you have to do is spread your legs and you WILL find some guy who will hang with you. Guys are just naturally SOL when they get old - who wants an old, useless ugly old man for a lover?
    If you were not at least bi, then this idea would have repulsed you. You are at least bi if not lesbian.

    you could have and would have said no otherwise.My boyfriend thinks i am a lesbian now after having a threesome with him and another girl..i dont agree, do u?
    You made out with another female, she went down on you and you both enjoyed each other to the point of an orgasm....



    That sounds pretty gay to me...
    Sounds like your relationship is over.My boyfriend thinks i am a lesbian now after having a threesome with him and another girl..i dont agree, do u?
    Threesomes are no cure for a bad relationship.



    Dump him.
    Wow threesome?? great how does it feel.....actually i also wanna try it..
    how many times are you going to ask this?
    No, enjoying what happened definitely does not make you a Lesbian. Could be that you're bi, but so what? That just 'doubles your pleasure, doubles your fun'. Don't give it another thought and just wait and see what happens. Although, you may want to tell your boyfriend 'Be careful what you wish for; you just may get it'. Men can really dish it out, but we can't take it!

    @ Irish Mom: Wow! What a wonderfully forgiving Christian attitude you have: NOT. Whatever happened to 'Judge not lest ye be judged' and 'Let SHE who is without sin cast the first stone'? You sound like a Christian in name only.
    Then just explain that to him. HE wanted the threesome; did it want it with another man? No don't think so.

    Stupid jealousy for no reason at all. If he didn't want to see you with another girl then he shouldn't have asked.

    If you're not attracted to women, you're not a lesbian. Just tell him it was something to make him happy, you love him, and you don't like girls.
    He is jealous because she got you off and he feels like it's a competition. He's insecure that he may not be able to send you over the edge and show the same emotional attachment as the girl did.

    If he can't believe you when you tell the truth, then he's not enough man for you. That immaturity will haunt you for as long as you're with him.

    Here's a good way to prove his attitude. Ask him about ANOTHER 3-way...only THIS time, you want another guy to join in. If he's not willing for tat (even if you're not serious about it) you'd find out that he's all about himself, and not willing to bend for you.
    well you should have stayed FB friends with her even if he is being a pain. I do not think you are lisbian, its a one time fling and you know many girls have one time flings in college.



    he needs to relax, you and an orgasm and I am sure they are great if he gave you one, if she did, or you went solo.
    You're in the wrong category - you should be in Mental Health. Psychiatry IS a cure for sexual dysfunction problems, and your sordid tryst with another woman is definite grounds for psychiatric counseling.



    You should be FAR more concerned about what GOD thinks of this repulsive act with another woman, than whether or not your boyfriend thinks you're a lesbian! Sounds like psychiatric AND spiritual counseling are needed - for ALL of you !!!
    number one, hes a boyfriend,, number two, he gt what he ask for,, from there, hes a drama queen, its a good thing u found out how weak he is in the mental dept before you married him, trust me i know how trust and respect is funneled into threesomes, i dont think you really wasted your time with him, you learned some things about guys like him, hopefuly yuo gained insight into relationsships and understand what campionship is all about, your current b/f will never ever let this pass. he will blah blah blah and blah forever putting you at the blame, , so get away from there, and go enjoy live the way life is meant to be, good luck,,
    This is why threesomes should only happen in rock solid relationships which yours is not.... And now you have to deal with the consequences. Reverse the rolls and put yourself In his shoes. If he was making out with her and all that then became facebook friends, I'm sure you'd feel the same way.

    In-law trying to use me?

    so me and my husband (20 %26amp;22 yrs old) got married young obviously about a year ago things have been rocky so we decided to move back in with oir parents to save money and go to marriage counseling, we have a 1 yr old daughter together. We were living in the same apartment complex as my mother in law. Since we are moving back home we decided to break our lease and pay the re laetting fee, so my sister in law suggested she take up our lease. ( she and her husband split so she staying with her mom, my mother in law with her 2 kids) so my hubby thought it was a good idea but in order to do that we would have to keep our name on the lease. I decided to remove my name so that im Not responsible for late fees or evications that may occur (for my protection) so my hubby is keeping his name on the lease since I bee removed from the lease he would have to fill out another application and he didnt qualify for the monthly income. so my in laws called me over asking me is there a problem bc I removed my name and I explained to them Im doing it for my protection and etc. so then I guess they got mad, and starting to be rude to me. did I do wrong, what should I do? My hubby avoids "drama and confusion" so he decided to just leave it alone. Im gonna feel weird going around his family now.. Advice Pleaase!!!In-law trying to use me?
    Advice yeah. Stop being a child and grow a pair. You did the right thing. They wanna be funny with you, F%CK EMIn-law trying to use me?
    Yea, it does sound like they were trying to use you. They need to understand that what you did was for your safety. It isn't right for your in-laws to try and force you into staying on the lease.In-law trying to use me?
    If they can't understand your reasoning behind removing your name from the lease, that's their problem. You didn't do anything wrong. In fact, I think what you did was a good idea. If I was in your position, I would have done the same thing. Let them be mad about it. They'll get over it. You shouldn't feel weird around them, because the "drama and confusion" isn't your fault. They need to act like adults.