I think my boyfriend has an addiction to porn/big butts or is a pervert. what do i do?

I'D LIKE ANSWERS FROM BOTH MEN AND WOMEN. MEN I'D LIKE YOUR POINT OF VIEW PLEASE! IS THIS NORMAL? PLEASE HELP ME UNDERSTAND.



I've been with my boyfriend for over 4 years now. I always knew he watched porn before me and it didnt bother me until recently. He signs up for a lot of porn sites and chats with girls online. He has a thing for big butts and i dont have a big butt so that does make me insecure. I knew he liked big butts since we first started going out but i didnt think it was a problem. He likes to watch girls on webcam and record them. He saves the recordings and pictures. i've recently found out he has like a collection of videos and pictures. One day I was massaging his feet while he was on the computer. I never thought anything of it but for some reason i said what are you doing and looked at the computer screen to see and he was watching a girl on webcam. It really hurt me because i was doing something for him while hes fantasizing about other girls right in front of me. i dont think its right. I've told him that if he wants me to do something for him i will. I ask if im not good enough or what? he's told me loves me and its just porn which is true but i think he watches it excessively and i dont like that he chats with many girls online. Another thing is that when he sees a big butt he has to look. Im starting to think its a problem. If were at a store he'll find an excuse to go the same way the big butt went. Ive caught on now so i know now that he just makes excuses to look at women's butts. When im not with him he does more than just look. He takes pictures of the big butts and sends them to his email. Everywhere he sees a big butt he takes a pictures no matter where he is. He has tried to meet up with girls he meets online to "watch" them play. At the gym he met a girl with a big butt and started talking to her. He told her he had no gf and that i was his sister. (i didnt know about this b/c i stopped going to that gym around that time) when i found out about this girl he told me she had a big booty and thats why he liked her and he was just trying to get to know her. but what if she had liked him back? where do i stand? so hes obssessed with big butts so what do i do? is it normal to take pictures of every big butt you see? We have a very active sex life and we do a lot of things so for him to try and date other girls makes me think im not good enough.



I honestly believe i am a great girlfriend and have always been to him. we've been through thick and thin together. We've always been there for each other. He's not only my boyfriend but also my best friend and i am his too. I can tell him absolutely anything and he can too. so thats why im trying to make it work



So after the girl at the gym i suggested that if he wanted to see other girls that we should take a break and do our own thing. He didnt want to do that but he does want to date other girls. when i ask why he said its to have someone to compare me to. For some reason he does not want me to date other guys but i should be ok with him seeing other girls. Does that even make sense? He has promised he wont do anything and that he just wants to go out with these girls maybe dancing or movies and then at the end of the day come home to me. Hes the first one ive slept with so i think thats why he doesnt want me to see other guys because he doesnt want me sleeping around but it hurts me that he wants to date. If he loves me and im good enough then why does he have to keep searching?



for the most part weve had a good relationship but this is the only problem we have and its only getting worse. I try explaining to him why i think its wrong and why it hurts me but he just doesnt get it. Hes very stubborn and to this day believes hes done nothing wrong ever.



So what do i do? I told him i think he has a porn addiction but he said he doesnt. Is it worth me staying by his side and working through this together or should i just move on? Is taking pictures of every big butt normal? Is he a pervert? I dont want to be with a pervert so i dont know what to do.



Please give me your honest opinion and feel free to ask any questions. Thanks!I think my boyfriend has an addiction to porn/big butts or is a pervert. what do i do?
most all guys like porn to some degree but when it begins to interfere with your relationships you know its becoming a problem. your first red flag should be the fact that it hurts you and he is apparently indifferent to that fact. if youre actually serious about changing the situation you need to have a very real talk with him. explain to him that what he is doing is hurting you. if he doesnt make a change then it means that you are secondary to him and your relationship is not going to be very satisfying anyway.
he is a pervert. please leave him. it's only going to get worse. my boyfriend was the same way. it gets emotionally abusive.I think my boyfriend has an addiction to porn/big butts or is a pervert. what do i do?
Too long, did not read, could not care less, am angry that you attempted to waste my time.
TL;DRI think my boyfriend has an addiction to porn/big butts or is a pervert. what do i do?
He's a perv. Get out, you deserve better :]
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I honestly think you should ditch him, he obviously wants to have his cake and eat it too. I mean I think you are convincing yourself that you have a good relationship, I mean when a guy is telling you that he wants to date other people what is that really telling you?
Yeah, this is way too long for a question about porn. Maybe if you edited it you will get more answers.