How come I'm the ONLY teen who isn't ready for sex?

Where ever I go I hear 13 year olds telling naughty things to eachother, and some of them do it about a month later. 16 year olds getting blowjobs, 12 year olds watching porn, I'm not saying this stuff isn't normal or good for them, but just asking, am I considered weird just for not being ready for sex at age 14 like most of this generation is? Because it seems like it. (No I'm NOT gay and I'm a guy)How come I'm the ONLY teen who isn't ready for sex?
RELAX: You are not the only teen who isn't ready for sex.



Three things (that is just the way I write) - First: many cultural and personality factors weigh in on how ready you are to explore new and exciting or terrifying or immoral or fantastic endeavors. Sex is such a small part of a relationship when a relationship is done right, and it gets too much focus when you are still a virgin. The best advice about sex is - do it only when you really want to pleasure another person with whom you have a relationship. Yep, the best approach is not "hey, get my rocks off" but "what more can I do for you?".



Second, if introversion, paranoia, inferiority issues, and "sex outside of marriage is EVIL" dogma, are not issues or "Deal-enders" for you, then you may be a normal 14 year old who is happy with the "way things are", and enjoy your activities with friends and family. If you have any of those issues, or other anxiety inducing issues, a good counselor or psychologist can help you deal without forcing you beyond your comfort zone. Maturing or developing new approaches to things (like sex) is like an infant learning to walk....when it happens, it happens, and you can't unlearn it easily. So enjoy the development process while it is ongoing.



Third, if you, and your family, have normal development %26amp; health parameters, then there absolutely is nothing to worry about. The hormones will hit (and drive your behavior toward "propagation of the species") and you will develop some degree of sex drive further motivating your relationships. To gauge your development, young men will grow pubic hair, have voice changes, have a phase of rapid height change, REQUIRE daily washing %26amp; deodorant, and tend to sleep a little more as they move through their mid-teen years. If you are not noticing any of these changes, there are a few genetic abnormalities that could affect your progression through stages of life, but in no way means that life won't be as enjoyable or meaningful. If there is a chance that you might have delayed development, do see your physician and have it checked out. But the likelihood is you are just developing at a slower and more mindful pace than other raging hormone teens that you know.
No, there are plenty of other teenagers who aren't ready for sex at your age. I wasn't ready for any kind of relationship at 14, and I'm hardly ready for sex at 16. Generations today are just more promiscuous than before, thankfully there are a few good apples who don't want to have sex with everything that moves.How come I'm the ONLY teen who isn't ready for sex?
Just keep in mind that many people feel pressured into sex. They also feel like they HAVE to enjoy sex, and want it all the time, because that's what TV tells them is the cool thing to do.



But people are not all the same, and they shouldn't be judged as if they were. If you're not ready for sex, don't have it. That could really mess with you. Just wait until you want it. Anyone who tries to make you feel bad about that is probably quite sad, and has given up actually enjoying sex for just bragging about it to people. Sex is too personal to let other people decide when the time is right for you.



I had my first time at 19, if it helps. At 17, I was feeling pressure to have sex, and broke up with someone over it, but it was the right choice because it was what felt right for me.
You are not the only one , however many who feel like you do get pushed into things through peer pressure . Your approach is much more commendable. You will know when you feel ready to start anything at all with a partner so don't get pushed before you feel ready. In the meantime you can work out how your own body works , and masturbation is a good way to make sure you are ready when the time comesHow come I'm the ONLY teen who isn't ready for sex?
i'm 14 too and feel the same way it's not weird it's a good thing. it means you haven't been sucked into the same things all the other perves have. also your not faking and trying to be like the rest of them. sure doing all that stuff is considered normal these days but not being into some of it is normal too.
I am 16 and I am definitely not ready for sex. I haven't even been in a relationship yet. I probably won't be in one until I have finished high school and even then I don't want to have sex until I know I've found the right person, not just meaningless sex.
I seriously doubt you are the only one who is not ready for sex, and a lot of your friends who claim to have such great sex lives are probably really virgins and think it makes them sound better when they brag of their exploits that only exist in their mind!
It's because you're the sensible one who is waiting for the right time and not bowing to peer pressure. At the end of the day, there will be more respect for you than the sluts who brag.
Yeah me too. I know how you feel. I love my boyfriend more then anything but I'm just not ready for that step yet. And no it's completely normal. People say theyre ready but theyre not.
Don't worry too much about it Sparky ... once puberty is done with you and those hormones kick in ... you'll be as rearin' to go and the next fella
I'm 15 and I'm not ready at all as well. I thought about it, was curious about it but ready for it? NOPE.
NO you are not weird. that is a really good thing. i sure as hell wasnt ready for sex at 14
I donno man...better get this show on the road before college...
Shuttt uppp! Sum kids are just stupid like tht! Jeez idk where their parents are.. Anyways im 17 and i do not hav any desire to eat skeet jeez wat im tryna say is that stop being stupid! Who the hell wants to be ready at that age?! Y tf wuld u wanna be ready at tht age?! Huh?! Is it so u can be a father at 15 and pay ur baby momma money with the money u earn at mcdixs that ull be working at for the next 10 yrs or so till u start selling drugs?! Stop being a fukn stupid kid!



Anyways im sorry for coming off offensive i think its time for me to sleep.