My boyfriend said that he was trying to replace is ex?

My boyfriend of a year told his friend that he was trying to replace is ex.

Well he cheated on his ex and she left him. Now he is with me and at the begining of our relationship well yeah he cheated on me with HER. She didnt know about me. And he told me he was done with her.



They also have a child together who is now 1. She wants nothing to do with him, and I mean NOTHING. He swears he wants nothing to do with her, but he lies and brags to her and when he does see her, he tries to put her down, but you can tell she doesnt care.



She is nice and is actually a great mom, nothing what he says she is. She is in a serious relationship and is done with him, yet he swears she is begging to be with him.



Well we have been going to counseling as I believe that people really can change.



However I overheard the two of them talking and he said he was trying to replace his ex. That he really loved her and that she broke his heart.

I thought he was past her?



Another thing is that he is always nasty to her, he tries his best to make her feel bad, but she ignores him, he lies to her and tells her to stay out of his life, yet he tells her things about his life in an arrogant way.



I also am concerned because he kept harping on their son not being able to spend the holidays with both parents, he said it to her like 20 times. just over and over again.



He then told her after a long argument that they had, I again overheard, he told her that she was his best friend for so long, to which she would gave him no response.

WTF... Should I be worried about this? The cheating I understand that people make mistakes. I want to know about his true feelings to his exMy boyfriend said that he was trying to replace is ex?
If he meant what he said about trying to replace his ex, he probably was still in love with her. He could be being nasty to her as a way to hurt her because he was hurt when she left him, like payback - although he had it coming if he cheated on her! Sorry, this guy sounds like a major douche. If he ever treats you like he is treating his ex - leave, no one deserves that. And cheating can't be passed off as a mistake when he has done it on more than one occasion. If you really want to know how he feels about his ex, confront him about it.. Do you really want to be with someone who is in love with someone else?
Typical girl thinking things will change, If what he is doing is not enough for you to realize he will not change, power to you!My boyfriend said that he was trying to replace is ex?
Honey leave him, any guy who goes out of his way to make a girl feel bad is not worth staying for. It doesn't matter if he's not doing it to you, you're seeing a side of him that frankly if you stay with him, he's eventually going to turn on you. He obviously has problems and is still pinning after his ex, leave him and find someone better, someone that's going to call you "his best friend for so long" you deserve better than him, and he doesn't seem to be willing to give you the emotional strength any good relationship needs. She sounds nice, however she doesn't want him-the father of her child-obviously if she doesn't want him anymore, that should say something about him and the kind of person he is.
I think you need to move on. He seems like he hasn't figured out anything for himself and if he treats the mother of his child like crap, you are probably low on the ladder for him too. I think that it is great that you can be adult and respect the ex and even take her side in the situations. Most people are not mature enough for that. You have your head on straight and you deserve to be with someone that treats you like #1 and not as a replacement.My boyfriend said that he was trying to replace is ex?
He has made his feelings towards his ex clear. The question is, are you ready to open your eyes and truly see it. He is obviously still hung up on her and I wouldn't be surprised if he left you for her if she ever wants him back. He said he's replacing her. What part of that is unclear to you? We always rationalize why we stay in a relationship we shouldn't. "People really can change". True but people have to first WANT to change. For now, with his actions, that's just your rationalization to stay with a man who is still very much in love with his ex. Yes, he's putting her down but he's also bragging to her. It seems to me he's only putting her down because he's frustrated that she doesn't want him. So, what is it YOU want? Do you want to be with a man who wants his ex or do you want to find a man who wants YOU?

Also consider that what he's doing to her he will eventually do to you. It has nothing to do with you, it's his CHARACTER.

And please, don't start blaming yourself for this. This is HIS problem, NOT yours! You are worthy to be #1 to a man and if he can't treat you as you deserve, then you should find a man who will treat you as you do deserve to be treated.
To be honest i wouldn't want to be involved with it. Who knows if his past love is JUST the past. Its very hard to get over the person you loved and also they have a child together which creates a more deeper bond. If you ever gave him the choice of you or her, who do you think he would HONESTLY choose (idk im just saying). But to me i don't think hes over this girl and shes still in his mind and heart. It seems like shes a big deal to him still. And hes prob being nasty to her cause she broke his heart and hes not over it and he couldn't be with her so he shows alot of anger towards her cause he hasn't got what he wants. Also starting fights is a stupid excuse to talk to the person and if that doesn't work for him then try make the child the excuse to get closer (him saying there child should spend time with BOTH of them). I think his true feelings are with his ex with what you have told us. Him saying hes just trying to replace his ex was enough.... Im in love with my boyfriend and if anything were to ever happen and he broke up with me, i don't think i could EVER get over him and we are also having a kid together. But just cause i cant get over him doesn't meen i should stop living and never find anyone else (it would take a long time!) but i would never be over him and if i had the chance i would prob want to be with him again. Remember she broke up with him. Sorry.
he still loves her, and i can understand why she left him, i know you may love him but he Sounds like a douche bag, and i would be leaving him soon to, like come on once a cheater always a cheater! i know that from alot of ex bfs, and i have had only 4 seroiuse realtionships and guys like that either will try to have another baby or keep chasing the exs!
sounds like hes really really trying to get with her desperately . its gonna happen sooner or later , but for the fact that she hates his guts , and wants nothing to do with him . he , ll use the kid to try to be with her .



actually , its a bad sign that he cheated on her with you , coz he wouldnt mind also cheating on you . hes with you for now , but hes heart is clearly else where . as much as he misses and wants her , you think if she ever said yes , hed say no ?