My boyfriend thinks i am a lesbian now after having a threesome with him and another girl..i dont agree, do u?

ok my boyfriend and i had been together for three years and things had gone from bad worse....the past 3yrs, he'd been bothering me about doing a threesome and finally since things have been boring in our relationship i found a girl who was down for it, so as i was telling him about her how she had a hell of a body and she was sexy, he got suspicious and started to think that i had been flirting with her previouslly, which i havent. So we went ahead and met up at a hotel with her and all of us had some rum and coke and wine to drink, we started to flirt, i wanted my bf to enjoy it so i was playing my role and kissing on her and she was kissing all over my body...i was acting the whole time bc i am 100% into men, anyways he was getting turned on a lot and he waned more attention but her and i were enjoying more of eachther...next thing u know she went down on me and i was blindfolded, it felt the same as if it was a guy doing it and i had an orgasm, after that my boyfriend had sex with me where she watched...and that was it...so after that night, her and i became facebook friends and now he is jealous and thinks that i am going to see this girl and stuff like that......i keep telling him that i am not a lesbian. What should i do??? i deleted her on facebook now so he doesnt think im still in touch with her, for me, it was a one night thing to tease himMy boyfriend thinks i am a lesbian now after having a threesome with him and another girl..i dont agree, do u?
%26gt;No it doesn't make you a lesbian, but it is a strong indication you are bi-sexual or at least bi-curious or you wouldn't have agreed to do it to begin with. A real lesbian has nothing to do with men sexually and is 100% attracted to women only. There are women who prefer other women but will stick with a man anyway - I think its because the somehow are socially inhibited and have not come out of the closet all the way. Only YOU have the right to put a label on who you are. If he is somehow disturbed by this, maybe he had better re-examine his sexual preferences and let you go. BTW, I don't think there is anything "wrong" with homosexuality as long as all the parties concerned, are adults and agree to that arrangement. Each to his or her own. I am a strict heterosexual, but you see, don't care, half the world is men and so if one doesn't work for me, I will find another one. Believe me, every woman has at least one advantage over men - no matter how ugly, fat, old, you are, if you are a woman, all you have to do is spread your legs and you WILL find some guy who will hang with you. Guys are just naturally SOL when they get old - who wants an old, useless ugly old man for a lover?
If you were not at least bi, then this idea would have repulsed you. You are at least bi if not lesbian.

you could have and would have said no otherwise.My boyfriend thinks i am a lesbian now after having a threesome with him and another girl..i dont agree, do u?
You made out with another female, she went down on you and you both enjoyed each other to the point of an orgasm....



That sounds pretty gay to me...
Sounds like your relationship is over.My boyfriend thinks i am a lesbian now after having a threesome with him and another girl..i dont agree, do u?
Threesomes are no cure for a bad relationship.



Dump him.
Wow threesome?? great how does it feel.....actually i also wanna try it..
how many times are you going to ask this?
No, enjoying what happened definitely does not make you a Lesbian. Could be that you're bi, but so what? That just 'doubles your pleasure, doubles your fun'. Don't give it another thought and just wait and see what happens. Although, you may want to tell your boyfriend 'Be careful what you wish for; you just may get it'. Men can really dish it out, but we can't take it!

@ Irish Mom: Wow! What a wonderfully forgiving Christian attitude you have: NOT. Whatever happened to 'Judge not lest ye be judged' and 'Let SHE who is without sin cast the first stone'? You sound like a Christian in name only.
Then just explain that to him. HE wanted the threesome; did it want it with another man? No don't think so.

Stupid jealousy for no reason at all. If he didn't want to see you with another girl then he shouldn't have asked.

If you're not attracted to women, you're not a lesbian. Just tell him it was something to make him happy, you love him, and you don't like girls.
He is jealous because she got you off and he feels like it's a competition. He's insecure that he may not be able to send you over the edge and show the same emotional attachment as the girl did.

If he can't believe you when you tell the truth, then he's not enough man for you. That immaturity will haunt you for as long as you're with him.

Here's a good way to prove his attitude. Ask him about ANOTHER 3-way...only THIS time, you want another guy to join in. If he's not willing for tat (even if you're not serious about it) you'd find out that he's all about himself, and not willing to bend for you.
well you should have stayed FB friends with her even if he is being a pain. I do not think you are lisbian, its a one time fling and you know many girls have one time flings in college.



he needs to relax, you and an orgasm and I am sure they are great if he gave you one, if she did, or you went solo.
You're in the wrong category - you should be in Mental Health. Psychiatry IS a cure for sexual dysfunction problems, and your sordid tryst with another woman is definite grounds for psychiatric counseling.



You should be FAR more concerned about what GOD thinks of this repulsive act with another woman, than whether or not your boyfriend thinks you're a lesbian! Sounds like psychiatric AND spiritual counseling are needed - for ALL of you !!!
number one, hes a boyfriend,, number two, he gt what he ask for,, from there, hes a drama queen, its a good thing u found out how weak he is in the mental dept before you married him, trust me i know how trust and respect is funneled into threesomes, i dont think you really wasted your time with him, you learned some things about guys like him, hopefuly yuo gained insight into relationsships and understand what campionship is all about, your current b/f will never ever let this pass. he will blah blah blah and blah forever putting you at the blame, , so get away from there, and go enjoy live the way life is meant to be, good luck,,
This is why threesomes should only happen in rock solid relationships which yours is not.... And now you have to deal with the consequences. Reverse the rolls and put yourself In his shoes. If he was making out with her and all that then became facebook friends, I'm sure you'd feel the same way.