I need your honest advice regarding a news i got yesterday. ?

I started seeing a girl lately. we seems to be bounding very well, am growing fun of her day by day. But yesterday my ex contacted me saying she is pregnant and the baby is mine. I know telling my current girlfriend is the right thing to do, and i want us to be honest about things but am really afraid of losing her. Am really finding it hard to cope with. Please what should I do?I need your honest advice regarding a news i got yesterday. ?
The first thing to do is get a paternity test done.

That's just common sense, lad.

Because you have no way of knowing if the baby's yours or not without one.



Only then will you know what to do:

-Tell your girlfriend about your past relationship with your ex.

-Tell your new girlfriend nothing because there's nothing to tell.
Difficult are you convinced the baby is yours? This is obviously a very new relationship with this girl since your ex has only just found out she is pregnant and she will find it very distressing if you tell her and you will probably lose her. See your ex and be certain the child is yours you cannot keep it a secret so I am afraid you will just have to hope this girl understands good luckI need your honest advice regarding a news i got yesterday. ?
The ex has done the right thing in contacting you. Only a paternity test will prove you are the

father one way or another. Whatever, you need to discuss with the ex what she is going to do.

She has options and abortion is one of them. If she decided to keep the baby and it is yours

you must step up to the mark and be a father. You don't have to live with the child's mother to be a good father, it takes time, commitment and money.

Telll the new girlfriend now, she won't appreciate not being told or being lied to. If you plan your future with her it will include this potential baby and she has a right to choose if that is what she wants.

For gods sake learn your lesson "UNPROTECTED SEX MAKES BABIES"
Tell the truth, take what comes, life has a way of throwing these curve balls at you, if you start out using deceit, you will never be able to stop using it and, when discovered, you will lose out big time.





Contraception is/was the answer...I need your honest advice regarding a news i got yesterday. ?
Can you be sure the ex is telling the truth? Could she just be trying to get back with you, because she's jealous? I would find out for sure that she IS pregnant and you ARE the father (as for a paternity test) before saying anything to the new girl. You sound a nice boy...could be the ex is not to be trusted. If you are not a daddy, for goodness sake be careful in future.
1. Tell your current girlfriend. If she leaves you, it's cause she didn't love you enough.

2. Next time use a condom.

3. Help your ex through the "process" because it's your baby as well. (Any chance of an abortion??)

4. Decide who keeps the baby.
As you sow is what you will reap but before saying anything to the current g.f. would suggest you make sure the baby is yours and what if anything at all the ex wants you to do about it .

Telling your current g.f may not be a good idea until you know all the facts and if you do decide to inform your g.f it would pay to tell her you have been accused of getting your ex pregnant and what the consequences will be if indeed you are the father.

Depending on what you say and how you say it will determine how the current g.f. feels about you and you could end up losing her if your answers are not sympathetic or you don't care whichever way you have got yourself into a mess of your own making hope you manage to sort it out .
I've seen something like this go horribly wrong.



Your ex is your ex because you weren't getting along for some reason. Both of you have moved on and you have a new love in you life.



If you go back to a girl you weren't getting along with for the sake of the child, that's very noble and many will agree you are doing the right thing. Problem is it's likely that in time you will break up once the newness of the child wears off, quite possibly for the reason you broke up just now. The child will then no longer have a father.



The decision really comes down to whether the child has no father now, or some time later.



Depending on the laws regarding paternity where you are, and also the availability of care and support for a single mother, and whether she would seek child support from you will be the determining factors here.



I suggest you get legal advice on these aspects faaast and decide whether keeping the child is the best option. Remember this will likely influence both your lives until the requirement for child support is extinguished in your area 16 - 18 years.



Hope this helps you.
yeah don't have unprotected sex with some one you're not committed too stupid. you're fishing for some kind of sympathy but you've acted like a five year old with the reproductive organs of an adult.

grow up.
Pick one of the two, keep both children, find a good paying union job and settle down.
Tell her and get it over with. She'll find out sooner or later anyway so it's better if it comes from you. If you ask for a paternity test be prepared for your ex to take this very badly.