Mothers and Daughters! Do you think I am wrong?

So I am a Junior in high school and next year I am going to be graduating and going off to college. I haven't got a car yet but I am waiting for one and my mom and I used to be really close (just things to keep in mind). So after my mom gets home from work she is either on the computer or she goes to the gym or doing things around the house or watching a movie. I want her to understand my point of view and I want her to spend a little bit more time with me. I don't talk to her about school or my friends or anything anymore it it kind of upsets me. I don't even see her that much on the weekends because she is either busy or I am at my dads house (they got divorced a while ago). I just want to talk to her but I feel like anything I say will either make her mad at me or she won't understand. Its like a lose lose situation. Do you think I am wrong for expecting this of her and how do I go about solving this?Mothers and Daughters! Do you think I am wrong?
It sounds like you and your mum have drifted apart a bit, maybe she's been a bit preoccupied with other aspects of her life recently what with the divorce etc, while this is not good, forgetting to put the effort into important relationships in our lives is something that everyone is guilty of from time to time and it is also something that can be easily fixed. You said you and your mum used to be close so I don't see why you can't be now. Next time you can grab some time with her try talking about fun memories you have together, tell her you miss how close you used to be and wish it was that way again and suggest doing something fun together like going shopping or for something to eat maybe, I don't know what your both into but somewhere you can talk, catch up and enjoy some quality time with each other before you start college.

Good luck hun ;-)
Tell her you want to plan a night out with her every month or twice a month from now til you go off to college. You want to start making memories so you will have them to look back on in the future when you feel homesick at school. Set dates that neither of you are allowed to change except for an emergency.Mothers and Daughters! Do you think I am wrong?
I would just let her know that you miss spending time with her and talking to her about things. Maybe you could suggest doing something that you used to do together, or ask to do some of the things she likes to do with her (ie go to gym, watch a movie) Hope this helps!
yes she should talk to u more, but in her defence, she prob just upset ur going to college soon, and wants to get used to u not being there.



id suggest u ask to go and get ur nail etc done. or if she's watching a film, watch it with her.Mothers and Daughters! Do you think I am wrong?
she should be talking to you more. try eating your evening meal togther, you can have a conversation with out haveing to worry about waseting her time because she has to be there anyway

hope i helped
Well I'm not a mother or a daughter, but I can certainly give my opinion.



If you want to spend more time with your mother you need to find something that you can do together. Adults are people to, we don't want to spend the day doing something that holds no interest for us. Maybe suggest you go shopping together, or invite her to go grab dinner somewhere. Befriend her.



You aren't wrong for wanting to spend time with her, she is you're mother after all. But sometimes you have to step up and make an attempt yourself.



And on a side note, you mentioned that you don't yet have a car? I hope you aren't expecting your parents to buy one for you. Life isn't a typical suburban television show.
its unfortunate you feel this way, but its a bit unclear as to why you feel she will get mad or wont understand if you tell her you want to spend more time with her before you leave.. sounds like every parents' dream... it sounds like the real issue is you have an unsupportive mom, who is a bit self-absorbed... this is a difficult thing for people who need a supportive loving affectionate mom.. i guess my advice would be work on yourself and making yourself your best you.. after all, you really cant change other people