My husband is secretly trying to get me pregnant , what to do ?

I'm not ready to have kids ! I'm only 21 and I wasn't ready to get married either but some how he convinced me. I told my husband this he said okay but he still kinda pushes me , it was hard enough with me being Black and all , him being Russian and his family semi racist. Now they are cool on me now but their is still some tension there.





Now he does have a big family and surprisingly they had kids around my age or a bit younger. So I've noticed when I get physical with I'm and I ask him to not *** in me but he still does , then he takes my birth control and throws them away and say the maid did it. So I have him use a condom ( sometimes ) and he'll take it off when I'm not looking. When I ask him he'll simply say "we are married " or " its better off." We have only been married 3 months , I don't think its time for kids or maybe I'm being selfish?



I mean his parents want us to have kids , they told us at least 5 or more. I tried the whole no sex thing but it also affects me, I can go 3 weeks then I give in. I've be going to the doctor and get birth control shots ,



I'm not overly worried but what if he gets like worried why I'm not getting pregnant , he'll call the doctor and they'll say o she is on bc shots or something. I mean he is a sweet guy , he pays for everything is supporting , we rarely fight , he listens to me ,and he gives me space when I need it. I feel so selfish in away , I mean 2 kids are fine but 5 I can't do that but its so early. What should I do I'm confusedMy husband is secretly trying to get me pregnant , what to do ?
If you live in the United States they absolutely can not divulge your medical history w/ anyone that includes your husband unless you give them permission to. There are tons of birth control options that he doesn't need to know about. I'm not one for keeping things from your spouse, but this is obviously an odd situations where he doesn't respect your space or your body. Honestly I'm wondering why on earth that you let him treat you this way. In my head I'm thinking if my husband done this sort of thing repeatedly after I'd said I wasn't ready for kids then there would a major explosion of attitude at my house. You can see about BC shots, the Implanon which will go in your arm for 3 yrs, a diaphragm, nuvaring (he might be able to feel that one not sure), spermicide. If he asks why you're not getting pregnant you have two options tell the truth now and tell him that you are getting on a different for of BC because you do not think that it's time to have a child or lie and tell him you don't know why which can certainly back fire. Your husbands parents need to get out of your bedroom... when and if you have kids is none of there freakin business. I think that you are being smart there are obviously some issues that the two of you need to work and issues w/ his family. I feel honestly like he's being selfish because he's not concerned w/ how this makes you feel.
you can secretly go on the pill.

Or/and you can drop hints that you arent readyMy husband is secretly trying to get me pregnant , what to do ?
contraception works a big wonder. Or morning after pill works if he finds out can be purchased from most chemists.
Let's see: Don't have sex with him. Or if you must, get an IUD or shot, something he can't meddle with.My husband is secretly trying to get me pregnant , what to do ?
Sit him down and tell him straight or keep taking birth control
He needs to respect your decision as much as you respect his. If your not ready then DON'T have any. Kids can make or break a marriage. Him trying to secretly get you pregnant is an awful thing to do. To solve that issue...they have something you can buy and put up your vagina as a form of birth control, I just can't remember what it's called.
You're not doing anything wrong first u hav only been married for 3 months and that's a very short time and u r very young and u r doing the right thing by taking birth control shots and u hav got a life and it would (I'm not saying having kids is a bad thing) be so hard having 1 child at a young age let alone 5 you should make it very clear to him that u r to young and 5 is to many and make him understand very clearly because WE R WOMEN and we have the POWER and the CHOICE if we don't want to or not!!!!!!!



U r doing the right thing and u r definitely not being selfish at all

HE IS BEING SELFISH!!!
I have a female friend whose currently going through the same thing. I telling you what I told her to say to her finance. Go screw yourself. If you know now's not the right time for kids then tell him. If he can't understand that then you two shouldn't be together. You're too young, still have alot to learn about life, and still pretty much a kid yourself.



Tell his parents the same. Five kids is ludacris. I'm the oldest out of nine. I can tell you from experince. After the third kid, you begin treating the eldest a bit more cold. You won't even realize you're doing it. Also, if the doc is just your doc and not his. Then the doc couldn't release any info about you. It's against the law.