What can I do to ensure that women view me as potential boyfriend material and not as a spare part?

I have met a series of women, who have been well educated, attractive and a lot of fun to spend time with. The last girl, we used to surf together and go snowboarding, and even golfing once. Like the others before her (I think 5 others), she was affectionate with me, even to the point where I became confused about her intentions. She shared a lot of deeply personal things about herself, and genuinely seemed to enjoy being with me. Often she initiated activities. However, once it became clear that I had developed feelings, like the previous women, she first became strictly platonic and then abandoned me.



Can you offer some advice? Should I devote my life to my career and accept the fact that things between any woman and I will never be right?What can I do to ensure that women view me as potential boyfriend material and not as a spare part?
Be more obvious like trying to kiss them sooner, and telling them how you feel. Don't, however, get needy and mushy. That is just a turn off. If they don't feel the same way, move on. Quit trying to make something out of nothing. When the right one comes along, she will respond positively to that kiss and want more.

Unfortunately, you can not make someone love you. They either fall in love with you or they don't. It is not under your control or under their control. It just happens.

Why don't you be a bit less available to them at first. There is a thing called TRYING TOO HARD in the beginning, and it is a turn off. (calling too often, acting jealous, etc...)

Last thing to remember is that you should start by dating within your league. Those girls that are out of your league will use you, but not get serious with you. they will make you the friend, and find some guy in their own league to be their bf.(If you are not the best looking guy, do not only try to date all of the best looking girls. If you are not popular, don't only go for the popular girls, etc...)

Read the book, "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" to help you understand women better.

Another thing, do not let go of your schooling or your career. Women like men that are intelligent and can take care of them, not guys that do not have anything to offer them.
From years of experience watching guys trying too hard for something that was not worth it in the first place. Any girl that will use you that way, will not be a good partner for you anyway. They will always be selfish and your life will always revolve around their wants, never yours.

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What can I do to ensure that women view me as potential boyfriend material and not as a spare part?
Keep doing you.



In other words, keep busting *** in your job and keep living your life. When you meet a girl along the way, don't stop busting *** and living life. Women don't like when guys settle down and make things easy for them. She will come along for the ride when you make it apparent with your actions that the train your on isn't making any stops for her but if she wants to come along, she's more than welcome.
I excepted that a while back. If you aren't rich, look good, or lucky then you can't get a gf. I don't even care anymore, I just go about my life.What can I do to ensure that women view me as potential boyfriend material and not as a spare part?
Use your spare part on them.
Maybe your scaring her. When you throw out all the commitment intentional or unintentional sayings it all sounds the same! First when you enter any relationship you need to make sure your both on the same page of what the relationship is about. Maybe your not communicating enough and being way too pushy. Evaluate yourself first, and maybe the women your choosing is also something to tart to consider.do these women want what you want? Is it just lust? Are you dating women with similar traits and personalities? It could be, and maybe your not compatible with these type of women my advice would be to seek out different women in terms of something you consider your ideal women and be realistic and match them up to your morals and values you'd be surprised how many women you will find.